In these final few days before two of our sisters give birth to their second children, I'm struck by the singleness, the impending, of knowing that our family is about to change, but being unable to fathom how. When our sisters announced their pregnancies in round one, we were surprised, shocked, and certainly not ready to introduce children into our family dynamic especially when we were having so much fun interacting with our siblings as peers. The most difficult part for me was the expectation that we exude excitement similar to that of the expecting parents. But for me, it was hard to separate not feeling ready for children myself as a separate feeling from being ready for nieces and nephews particularly as I've nannied Johannah for 3+ years which gave me the "baby fix" if you will.
Now that they're here, they're adorable of course, and Jimmyredhed and I have given much thought and contemplation to approaching aunt and uncle-hood with intentionality. We are conscious of the role that we want to play in our nieces' and nephews' life which align with our beliefs and values regarding the types of influence that children need in their lives. We approach things slowly, carefully in the attempts to contribute to the character of each child and not the material identity that we force upon children. We are also conscious of our interactions to the degree that we hope our siblings would to to our children, if we one day chose to raise children.
I say all this to say that two of our sisters will be giving birth any day (Kristen) and within the next month (Sara), and we're looking forward to and supportive of the excitement and changes that this brings to them. Although I don't know what it will look like, I've enjoyed our time spent solo with Adeline and Kellen and, of course, Johannah too.